Esther Kane on Embracing Aging

Our latest interviewee is writing a book on Embracing Aging! She is looking for women 40+ who want to help women age with self-love!

She writes: “I’m looking for women to provide their experiences (positive and negative) with turning: 40, 50, and 60 (all contributors will remain anonymous) for an upcoming book on helping women feel empowered about midlife and to embrace ‘fearless aging’ in a youth-obsessed culture. Please answer some or hopefully, ALL of the following questions in your reply:

How did you feel about turning 40 (50) or (60)?

How did you celebrate this milestone birthday?

What were your hopes and dreams for this age (i.e. What did you hope to accomplish by this age?)

What was difficult about reaching this milestone?

What was wonderful about reaching this milestone?

What do you think about our youth-obsessed culture and the constant pressure to look younger than we are? How do you feel about cosmetic surgery? If you’ve undergone such treatments, please share your experiences.

Thank you so much!”

You can send answers via e-mail to:

Esther Kane, MSW, ( is a psychotherapist, author and women’s emotional well-being expert. As a respected speaker on women’s issues, she has written and published three self-help books for women including What Your Mama Can’t or Won’t Teach You: Grown Women’s Stories of Their Teen Years; Dump That Chump: A Ten-Step Plan for Ending Bad Relationships and Attracting the Fabulous Partner You Deserve, and It’s Not About The Food: A Woman’s Guide To Making Peace with Food and Our Bodies. The book and audioprogram is available to order online at


“Will older women be hesitant to talk about their changing image?”

My sister recently asked. We shall see. That is something I am curious to find out. In creating this project, I want to be as sensitive and respectful as possible.

For me, my questions present important issues. Why does the (lack of ) age of a face “enhance” its value? As women grow in wisdom and life experience, how is it that modern, enlightened culture is still socialized to “invisiblize” them as women and increasingly reduce their roles? Why are the young particularly valuable or beautiful?

Money and power are easy answers to roll out in response. The questions in themselves are not new nor profound. What is important though is to ask, giving form to unspoken ghouls that linger behind smiling faces in advertisements.

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